Tuesday, December 6, 2011

   I have recently learned that a very good friend of the family has passed away.  Although I share no blood ties to this man I call him my uncle and consider him a second father. I had hoped to have him walk me down the aisle with my father on my wedding day.
   
     My uncle Tim was a wonderful human being. He had a laugh that would fill up the room and always kept me entertained with some newly learned fact or his latest conspiracy theory. His two favorite choices: aliens and government. Much like my Grandpa Jim, a man who did things in an old school small town way and a pocket full of WWII ex-marine stogies, uncle Tim did things the old fashioned way. He played football in his hometown where they almost went to state and he loved every minute. He joined the Army and served at the tail-end of Vietnam, where he became a sniper as he put it "just for fun".  He returned to his small town where he eventually found employment as a prison guard where he met my father. The two of them would go hunting together and were best friends.

I've known my uncle Tim since I was about 8 years old. He showed me about football and life, he taught me how to stand my ground in an argument and be a good sport in softball when I won. He never missed a Christmas or an OSU Michigan game. These two things will not be the same this year. I have no one to brag about Michigan's victory (my team of choice)  over OSU (his team) and I won't be able to see the glee on his face when he unwraps my carefully selected gift at Christmas. I will no longer be able to hear his infectious laugh while he sips his Coke. There will no longer be early morning whitetail hunting.

I have an empty void in my life that will no longer be filled with his laughter of guidance and I will miss him more than I can say. To the man that helped to shape me as a woman and as a human I love you.  I will miss your guidance and assurance to do what is right.



 I will always keep you in my heart.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Falling Behind




Since I've fallen behind I bring you this.

How to catch up when you've fallen behind

1. Let yourself be angry.
                                         
       I'm pretty upset with myself for letting my blog get this far behind. I'm angry that I have had all this extra      
       time these last few months yet I haven't been using it wisely. I'm disappointed in the fact that I didn't take a personal project seriously enough to work on it consistently.

2. Now that that's out of your system, move on.
                                                         
       Sitting here thinking about how I screwed up isn't going to make a time machine appear and whisk me away to fix it all. The best thing to do is to figure out why I didn't accomplish my goal, address it and more forward. I didn't update my blog because I didn't find it important enough to work on, to make time for or to update regularly.

3. Meditate and collect your composure
      Understand why you didn't accomplish your goal and figure out where to go from here. I realize that not posting regularly doesn't get me any closer to documenting my life or reaching out to people.

4. Manage your goals and expectations
    Maybe updating every day is too difficult, maybe working out every day is too much. So scale back just a touch. Just a touch. Don't forget what your goal is but maybe be more realistic about it. Setting the bar too high can some times set you up for failure. So instead of doing something every day, try every other day, or maybe even once a week, then work up from there.

5. Don't give up
    Just because you've messed up this time doesn't mean you can throw your hands in the air and just give up completely. It's never to late to fix things and catching up is always cool.

6.  DO IT!
                            
    Now that you've taken time to be upset and gotten it out of your system, figured out what went wrong and then possibly re-worked your goal GET TO IT!